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Beating The Post Holiday Blues

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The Holidays are always a rush of gift giving and food. We usually ride the season with a lot of adrenalin to help us get through the parties, vacations, and coming home to mom and dad’s. But, after you’ve opened all your presents and uploaded your holiday pics to social media sites, the adrenalin wears off and you start to feel down in the dumps. It is no surprise that holiday blues usually take place after the trimmings are taken down and the festivities have ended. During the crash, fatigue sets in, we don’t want to go to the gym and postpone opening and reading emails. All we feel is laziness usually due to over indulgence of food. But it does not have to be this way. Here are ways to kick the post holiday blues.

Stay Connected

Just because you’ve said goodbye to friends and family does not mean that you can’t communicate with them until the next holiday season. Drive away the doldrums by keeping in constant contact. Continue to update them on social media or send them emails from time to time. Call mom and dad on the phone even just to say hi. When you stay connected with the important people in your life, you feel less lonely and won’t miss them as much.

Exercise

Did you know that exercise is a good way to get rid of depression? Working out can actually make you feel better. Exercise releases dopamine into the bloodstream so you feel happier and content. As a bonus, you get to melt off pounds that you probably put on indulging in turkey and dessert during the holidays.

Plan Your Next Holiday

Nothing can get you more fired up than thinking about your next trip. Why wait for Christmas when you can plan another getaway during Valentine’s Day or any holiday? It can be something simple as a budgeted long weekend or even an overseas trip. Whatever your plan is, it will make returning to work easier and help you avoid thinking about the holidays. Cultivating something positive and forward thinking is also a good way to reset your brain.

Schedule Fun Activities

Drinking alcohol will only make you more depressed, so switch to scheduling fun activities instead. Research tells us that having things to look forward to makes us happy. You can host a President’s Day party with friends or a small tea party to catch up with friends you weren’t able to visit during Christmas. If you want to keep it simple, you can engage in movie night with your siblings, dinner with the family, or a relaxing massage.

Spend Time Outdoors

This might not be possible for some people but spend time outdoors every day. According to a meta-analysis of 10 studies, spending as little as 5 minutes outside everyday can help improve mood and self-esteem. Spending time outside is also recommended for people who suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) or winter depression.

Keeping these strategies in mind can help you beat post-holiday depression. The holidays have to end, but it does not mean to say that the fun has to stop. Think of these suggestions every time you’re battling post-holiday misery.

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How To Approach A Disagreement

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How to Handle a Disagreement

Disagreements are a part of life. We disagree with family, friends, coworkers, and even superiors on a number of different things. In fact, disagreements are so common it is probably rare for a person to have never disagreed with anybody. Whenever they happen, it can cause friction or awkwardness. However, if you know how to handle disagreements properly, it can result in positive gains and better relationships. Here are some tips on how to approach disagreements.

Don’t Take It Personally

Do not involve yourself personally in the position, so you won’t have a hard time separating yourself from it. Try to view your position as “a position” rather than “my position”. The book The Psychology of Computer Programming, we see author Gerald Weinberg’s concept of “egoless programming”. His concept is of a team of programmers checking the work of technical programmers for errors. He discovered that the less defensive a programmer feels about his code, the more productive a review process is. A programmer who separates himself from his work has a smoother review and does not feel that the discovered errors are a personal attack against him.

Always Remain Professional

Many of us have heard about the adage “you can catch more flies with honey than vinegar”. If you are having a disagreement with somebody, make sure that it is because of certain issues and not because of the person. When in the office, treat everybody – even those with those whom you disagree – with respect and professionalism. Respecting others and remaining professional will earn you the respect of your peers.

Listen

Many disagreements can be avoided if we listen carefully. Avoid interrupting the speaker so when it’s your time to react, you can provide the appropriate response. If you need to interrupt because the speaker is long winded, summarize what you have understood so far before asking questions or telling them to continue. Remember that people express themselves in different ways. If you don’t listen carefully or interrupt often, you might find yourself reacting not to what the person said, but to what you thought he said.

Use Lower Voice

Shouting stirs up more anger. During a disagreement, it is best to lower your voice instead. Lowering your voice has 3 advantages. First, it reduces any tension. Second, it forces the other person to listen, and lastly has a psychological advantage because of its unexpected nature.

Watch What You Say

Once a word leaves your mouth, there is no way to take it back. As stated above, harsh words stir anger. What you say can fuel disagreements and even make them something bigger. Instead of responding immediately, count from 1 to 10 before opening your mouth to defuse your feelings. It will also give you time to compose yourself and think of a calmer response to the issue.

Once a disagreement has been settled, it should be water under the bridge. Do not keep score of disagreements. Dwelling in the past can lead to grudges between the other person and impact your relationship negatively. Learn from the disagreement and move on.

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Interview With Interior Designer Taylor Spellman, Host Of “Yours, Mine Or Ours”

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taylor spellmanTransforming from dancer to interior designer, Taylor Spellman is as creative as they come. Taylor is a recognized interior designer and staging expert in New York with a portfolio of multi-million dollar clientele, including Ryan Serhant of BRAVO’s “Million Dollar Listing.” Her unique style of mixing high end with treasures from Goodwill has earned her a position as host of BRAVO series “Yours, Mine Or Ours” alongside real estate agent Reza Farahan. Her firm TSNY handles 30 million dollar’s worth  of real estate daily. Because of this, Taylor Spellman manages the best team possible including Vice President, Lana Ataman, and Lead Designer, Jacqueline Leung.

Taylor Spellman works with finesse. Her sense of humor and bright personality shines through in her work and as a host for “Yours, Mine Or Ours.” She takes care of her clients by personally taking the time to learn about their lifestyle and how interior design can elevate their lives. During the design process, she gets deep into the nitty gritty, overseeing each stage until completion. Her Instagram and Twitter is flooded with pictures of her projects and bits of advice for aspiring interior designers. Taylor Spellman talks to Owner’s Mag about TSNY, design strategy, and being the host of “Million Dollar Listing”.

 

How did you build a business around interior design?

I built a business around interior design by capitalizing on a niche in the market. When I started, no one was doing interior design just for bachelors. I felt strongly that it was strongly due to the fact that there wasn’t a service being offered versus there being a need for it. I became known as doing interior design for men, and that gave me a competitive edge and people found out about me quicker, and ultimately word of mouth lead to more clients and a full blown firm.

What are some key factors you think about when designing a room?

  1. How does this person really live?
  2. How do you maximize the functionality of the space?
  3. How do I bring my client’s personality into the space to make it reflect who they are and make them feel very much at home?

When do you consider a room “done”?

Accessorizing. People often lay the groundwork but then stop after they have their coffee table, rug, and couch… but a layer of décor delivers the personal touch that make the home feel like you.

What is your average day to day like?

I would love to tell you that I get up and do yoga and relax, but in reality I hop up, get the biggest coffee possible and get going. It is a beautiful and hectic madness. I like to spend the majority of my day on-site with my clients and projects. Sometimes I’ll be in a client’s living room painting custom artwork, sometimes I’ll be running around coordinating contractors and electricians to make sure everything is on point. I am extremely detail oriented so every single piece of the puzzle matters to me.

How has hosting a hit TV show influenced your lifestyle?

It’s been interesting because I’ve been very hard at work for the past ten years, hustling, and trying to make a name for myself. And this show has definitely shifted things over the hill. Needless to say, I don’t know that I’ll ever get over getting recognized. That is something that will always be crazy to me.

What do you look for in a team?

First and foremost I think about work ethic. Is this person willing to work really hard and put in the hours, and be dedicated? Second I think about one’s ability to think outside the box. Interior design and staging change by the second, and there’s really no formula, so I need my team to be able to really think on their feet. And that’s easier said than done.

What was the biggest challenge since starting your business?

My number one challenge has definitely been to ‘stay the course’. There are so many things that come up that really make you truly believe you’re on the wrong path, but if you have enough conviction, dedication and talent, then you just need to remember to stay on track and you will find success.

What is your favorite moment of 2016?

Watching the first episode of ‘Yours, Mine or Ours’ air. It was a very full circle moment for me, getting to see the fruit of my work come alive in a completely different format.

What are some tips you can give to aspiring interior designers?

Figure out what your unique selling point is. Is it your style, your personality? Is it your ability to make clients feel comfortable enough to use their own aesthetic in the place? Figure out what makes YOU unique and run like hell with it. Never stop.

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6 Books That Will Change Your Life

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Whether you’re going through a transition in life, starting a new career, ending a career, or simply looking for ways to improve yourself, there’s likely a book for that. But today there are thousands upon thousands of self-help books from qualified authors to choose from, which ones do you pick? We’ve curated a list of some of the best self-help books for you to check out.

Think And Grow Rich

This comes as no surprise to anyone. Think And Grow Rich is one of the best self-help book ever written. To date, it’s helped hundreds of millions of people discover themselves. The book is a practical guide that outlines some fundamental laws that govern success and has been released internationally in just about every language.

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How To Win Friends And Influence People

Dale Carnegie’s work was released in 1936, but it still remains a popular choice nowadays. The advice and practical tips suggested applies today as much as it did when it was originally published. To date, it’s sold more than 15 million copies and can be found on the shelves of many executives.

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The 7 Habits Of Highly Successful People


Originally published in 1989, Steven R. Covey’s work became an instant bestseller and today still can be found in every Barnes & Noble. It’s been reprinted and sold over 25 million copies in over 40 languages. The book provides valuable knowledge on how to be a more effective you whether at work or in your personal life.

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The Road Less Traveled


Over 7 million copies sold in it’s most recent print, translated in over 23 different languages, and being on the New York’s Best Seller’s list for over 10 years, this is a rare gem you don’t want to miss out on. Dr. Peck’s teaches his reader how to live a full and complete life, how to differentiate dependency from love, and how to find your true self.

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The 5 Love Languages


Who knew there were 5 different languages of love? Dr. Gary Chapman did and his work has helped millions of people all over the world to renew their intimacy, learn how to love, and most importantly – learn how to receive love better. Beyond simply helping with personal relationships, learning the 5 love languages will also give readers better insights into dealing with people both at work and at home.

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The Art Of Happiness


Who’s more qualified to write a book about happiness than the Dalai Lama? Despite the great loss his country and he personally have suffered, the Dalai Lama remains positive and enthusiastic whenever you see him. Those who have been fortunate enough to be in his presence reported feeling lighter and even happier within just a few short moments. Coauthoring with Dr. Howard C. Cutler, The Art Of Happiness is a book that will arm you with the knowledge and tools to overcome everyday challenges and discover a better version of you – one that is happier and more fulfilled.

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