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9 Changes To Make To Build Self Esteem

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How do you build self esteem? If you want to succeed in this life, then you need to work on your self-esteem. By having confidence in your own abilities and self-worth, you are going to find it far easier to achieve what you want. Those with good self-esteem will be able to push themselves towards their goals, rather than stay at a point where they feel comfortable. If you feel like you are not moving ahead in your life, whether it is socially or at your place of work, then the following changes will work wonders for you.

1. Develop a skill

Work on developing your skills in something that you are passionate about. By doing this, you will be proving to yourself that you can accomplish something. This is going to result in you having a high degree of self-worth. It will demonstrate that you can achieve what you want in your life if you are willing to put your mind to it. You, of course, also have the side-benefit of the skill that you develop being able to help you achieve your business or career goals too.Remember; it is important that you develop a skill in an area that you are passionate about. If you do not, you will not be motivated to improve. This can really put a dampener on your self-esteem. A good skill to start building that will help with building your self esteem is organization.  To learn how to be better organize, check out this article.

2. Believe in Yourself

It is important that you start to believe in yourself. Whenever you face a challenge in your life, tell yourself that you have what it takes to overcome it. If you can convince yourself that you can tackle whatever is thrown at you, you are more likely to jump headfirst into something. This will give you the edge that you need in life.It is worth noting that this is not the ‘be all and end all’ to developing self-esteem, but it is certainly going to help.

3. Acknowledge your past successes

From time to time, sit down and take a note of the successes that you have achieved in your life. By developing this list, you will be proving to yourself that you do have what it takes to be successful, because you have already achieved success in your life.Whenever you have a new success, and it does not matter how minor it is, feel free to add it to your list. Keep showing yourself that you are worth something.

4. Self-Analysis

Before you learn to build self esteem, it's important that you carry out some self-analysis. Make a list of what you are good at. Ignore the things that you are not so good at right now. By looking at your skills, talents, and education, you will be able to convince yourself that you are a far better person than you give yourself credit for. This sort-of ties into the previous point about acknowledging your past successes. These are all tools that you can use to provide evidence that you are worth something.

5. When you agree something, keep to that agreement

When you make an agreement with somebody else, do your best to keep to those agreements. The problem with not following through on the agreements that you have with other people is that you are going to start to convince yourself that you are untrustworthy. When this happens, you are going to have a lack of faith in your abilities. You will find it a whole lot more difficult to convince yourself that you have what it takes to succeed.

6. Be Willing to Take Risks to Build Self Esteem

I once saw a good analogy about self-esteem and poker chips. This analogy argued that self-esteem is very much like poker chips. The more chips you have, the more risk you are willing to take when it comes to gambling. Now, apply this to self-esteem. The more self-esteem you have, the more risks you are going to end up taking. So, start to take those risks. Obviously, these should be calculated risks, but risky nonetheless. As you do this, you will actively be building up your level of self-esteem. This results in you being more willing to take risks. Remember, risks are what gets you ahead in life.Why not start working on your self-esteem today? Why it is not the be all and end all to succeeding in the world of business, it certainly is going to put you on the right path to success.

7. Be Realistic

Part of having to build self esteem is to make sure that you do not overextend yourself when it comes to your skills and agreements. You need to be realistic with everything that you do. If you are not realistic when it comes to your talents, then it will result in over-promising. When you over-promise and don’t deliver, you are going to pick up quite a knock to your self-esteem.

8. Wake Up Positive

This may only be a small change, but it is something that really does work. To build self esteem each day, you should make a conscious effort to wake up and be positive. Tell yourself that you are going to succeed that day. Tell yourself that you are going to tackle each challenge that comes your way. Many people will practice positive affirmations, or perhaps meditation, in a bid to improve their positivity levels. The more you do this, the easier it is going to become.

9. Do Not Judge Yourself Against Others

Finally, and this is important, to build self esteem you should not judge yourself against other people’s successes. You are working on improving yourself as a person. If you judge yourself against other people, you will be judging against something that you are not. We all have our own unique skills. We all have our own weaknesses. No person out there is 100% the same as another. The only person you should be judging yourself against is you. The success you achieve in life should be based around who you are as a person. The second you compare yourself against others is the second your self-esteem is going to plummet.

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Tech Traveler Must Haves

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Constant travel makes packing difficult, but these products can make your on-the-go lifestyle much more efficient. You know you’re a tech traveler when your dongles are spilling out of your suitcase. Sometimes it may even be difficult to find a place to plug in these dongles. We compiled a list of products that ensures that your tech traveler lifestyle is up to par as well as enhances your experience, wherever you may be.

Memobottle

Memobottle is a water bottle designed to fit perfectly between your books or laying flat against your laptop. This rectangular, flat bottle design is sleek and is sure to spark some conversation. Slide your bottle into your briefcase or laptop bag without having your bag become bulky, which is a lifesaver when you're a fellow tech traveler. Memobottle is a sustainable alternative to disposable plastic water bottles. It is stylish and durable, making it an essential for everyday use.

 

Nomand USB charging hub

Because of our need to be connected, we may need to charge a bunch of different devices at the same time. The Nomad USB Charging Hub is sleek in design and fits perfectly into your environment. The charging hub is perfect for every tech traveler. You can charge up to five devices in one place, relieving you of the stress of searching for multiple outlets. The flat surface allows you to rest your phone or iPad on top. The Charging Hub also has an ambient light sensor that dims the LED indicator in the dark, allowing you to sleep peacefully.

 

Raden Suitcase

What makes the Raden suitcase unique is the technology they integrated into the suitcase. Think about some of the basic fears we now have when flying: losing our suitcase, having to pay extra fees, or running out of batteries on our phone with no outlet available nearby. The Raden suitcase solves these three concerns with their app. We may be able to fit everything we need into a conventional suitcase but usually forget about the weight. Well, the Raden suitcase is its own scale. After connecting the suitcase to the app, lift the handle of the suitcase to find out the weight and avoid overweight fees. With bluetooth technology, the app will notify you when your suitcase is nearby. No more fighting with other travelers for space circling the carousel watching as each bag falls down from the entrance. Stand back and let your suitcase tell you when it is coming.Running out of batteries has become one of our biggest fears - especially if being connected is a part of our job. Well, the Raden suitcase is here to save you if you miss your connection or spent too much time playing games on your phone and now need a charge. There is a built in USB charger port right behind the handlebar that can completely charge up to four phones. Plug the charging wire into the battery without removing it to charge up the suitcase or remove the battery, charge it and used as a portal changer once you have reached your destination. This suitcase is a combination of old and new. The Raden suitcase has four 360 degree wheels. Their use of polycarbonate shell allows the suitcase to be durable against TSA throwing your suitcase around, but at the same time is lightweight and smooth. The zipper is reversed, making it water resistance, great for keeping your belongings secure and dry when traveling to rainy destinations.

 

Lexdray Laptop Case

As we become more dependent on technology, besides a cell phone, a laptop is the next most important device to keep us connected and get our work done - especially those in the technology field. A prime investment for our previous laptops is the Lexdray laptop case. The case is “ultra paddled” with fleece lining for their main compartment as well as the two side compartments for chargers and other essentials.  The water repellent zippers are great for running from house to car, car to building, building to restaurant without worrying about our electrics getting wet.

Zest Tea

To get that boost of energy and focus you are craving for without the crash, try Zest Tea. They currently offer four flavors from something simple like earl gray black tea to something bold like pomegranate mojito green tea. Each flavor of Zest Tea is highly fragrant, and drinking it leaves you feeling instantly refreshed. This is especially important for the tech traveler who is awake at all hours of the day, going from place to place.Once you hit a certain age, highly caffeinated beverages are your best friends when we need a bit of extra energy. It becomes a necessity. You get the energy boost you are looking for but it comes with a consequence. You become jittery, especially when you are lacking the drink, and you crash once the caffeine wears off. Zest Tea gives you the energy you need without the uncomfortable side effects.

 

Happiness Planner

Technology has consumed our lives for better and for worst. Before smart phones and social media became such an essential part of our lives. Going back to the old school way of pen and paper allows us to disconnect from the world and have a moment to ourselves: right here, right now. The Happiness Planner is laid out in a way to help you take a step back from technology and focus on simpler things in life that makes us happy. Each morning, start off by thinking about what excited and inspires you. A positive mindset will set your day in a good direction. As you are writing, more ideas will come to you and before you know it, you are have the right attitude to conquer any difficult task that may come your way. At the end of the day, reflect on all the good things that happened that day. You will realize that this world isn’t as bad as the news makes it seem. 
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The Importance Of Emotional Intelligence In The Workplace

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There are five key elements of emotional intelligence: self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy and social skills. Awareness and practice of each element combined will make our daily lives in and out of the workplace much more enjoyable. We go through many emotions throughout our day. Being mindful of these emotions and turning the negative ones positive will keep us motivated. We do our best work and is most approachable and enjoyable when we are comfortable.

Self-Awareness

The first element of emotional intelligence is self-awareness. This is the ability to recognize and understand both the positive and negative feelings you encounter. Being able to recognize your emotions will allow you to analyze how you feel in certain situations and later allow you to control those emotions in certain situations. This is especially important in negative situations when hot emotions will cause you to make rushed decisions and say things you do not fully mean and cannot take back.You go through many emotions on a day to day basis. Take a regular work day for example. You wake up feeling like you are ready for the day or ready to go back to sleep. This can be the determining factor of how you may feel the rest of the day. For the next couple of days, notice how you feel when you first wake up in the morning for work. Are you excited to see what challenges you will resolve today or are you dreading the thought of stepping into the office? If you are excited, congratulations! This means that you are enjoying your work and feel a sense of pride about what you are doing. If you are dreading going to work, pause for a second. Why are you not looking forward to your day? Is it because of your coworkers? Managers? Or is it because you do not enjoy the work you are doing? Evaluate why you are not looking forward to your work day. Figure out if it is something you can change, how you can change the situation, and go from here.

Self-regulation

After being self-aware of your emotions, you can begin self-regulating them. Self-regulation of your emotions is the ability to control the emotions, especially in high-stress situations. This will help with lashing out impulsively when in stressful situations.An example that ties in with self-awareness at work is how you respond to certain people. Are you responding to certain people in a more negative way than others? This is an important thing to recognize. The person you are responding to negatively is picking up your negative energy much faster than you are recognizing it yourself. Take a moment to notice when you feel more worked up when talking to a specific person. Figure out why that is the case. It may be something they said once that is stuck in the back of your brain. Figure out what it is and determine if it is worth holding a grudge. In most cases, nothing is worth holding a grudge. The only person it is affecting is yourself. After you have determined why you speak to this person in a negative way, let yourself know it is not worth having tense at work and let it go. You are with your coworkers more than you are with your friends so why not be happy when you are at work. 

Motivation

There will always be days when we feel unmotivated to crawl out of bed let alone do anything productive. Sometimes the lack of motivation comes from something as simple as lack of sleep or as complicated as lack of passion. Go to bed earlier! More sleep cannot hurt. Lack of passion can be fixed. Often time, many life elements plays a role into whether we can change what we are doing out of necessity into doing what we want to do out of passion. Being self-aware of why we are lacking the motivation is the first step in getting motivated, however, we do not always have to do it alone.We interact with many different people in our daily lives - family, close friends, coworkers, random person on the same train as us every day. Every one of those people could use a boost of motivation from time to time. In the workplace, whether you are a manager or team member, it is undoubtedly recognizable when someone is lacking the motivation. They are your work family. You see your coworkers more than you see your actual family so a shift in behavior or attitude is easy to pick up. When you notice these shifts, if it is a negative shift, consider what might be the cause. If it is something work related? How can you support or work with them to help? As a manager, are you listening to your team? Is someone feeling burnt out? Is there something in the business process that can be improved? Improving all of these things will improve the morale of your team and motivate them produce more high quality products. 

Empathy

The other elements that we have discussed so far were about recognizing and understanding our own emotions. Empathy is different. Empathy is being able to recognize and understand the emotions of others. It is often time easier to recognize the emotions of someone else, especially if it is a negative emotions. You just have to pay attention. This ties in with self-regulation when we talked about others being able to pick up on the energy we give them. Although it is easy to pick up the emotions of others, it is important to consider why they are feeling that way.When others are feeling positively, it is something to enjoy. If they are feeling extra enthusiastic or high in energy, maybe something exciting is going on in their lives. Maybe they’re about to go on a dream trip and is looking forward to it. Feeling the positive emotions of another person will feed our emotions positively. Ask that person what is making them so excited today. You might have just discovered something fun to talk and bond about.Now for the not so fun emotions. Negative emotions are more difficult to control. We feel our blood boiling, the looks in our eyes changes and our body language may become aggressive. Most people will stay far away from people they see are showing signs of negative emotions. Why? Simple. Because we ourselves do not like to feel negatively and do not want others negative emotions rubbing off on us. However, stop and consider how you feel when you are upset. At first you may not want to be disturbed by anyone but you should know that holding in negative feelings for a long time is not healthy for yourself or anyone around you. Sometimes, people just needs one caring person to take them aside and ask if they are okay.The answer could be simple. They may have just had a bad start to their day. Spilled coffee for example. Other times, they may be going through a difficult situation in their personal lives that is spilling into how they feel at work. These situations are more difficult to help with but knowing that will allow you to be more empathetic when they respond harshly to a question you ask or seem spaced out.The situations we have just talked about were seeing a higher level of energy - positive or negative - different than their everyday level. Another thing to consider is culture or personality traits. Someone’s culture is a big factor in how they preserve a situations and how they will handle it. Personality traits such as introverts vs extroverts will also react differently to the same situation. Do a quick search for personality tests online and see what you are. Most people are close to the middle. Someone who is introverted, may preserve an extroverted reaction as extreme. Understanding and educating ourselves about our personality traits and what others are will help the us understand how to react in certain situations and with certain people so that everyone feels comfortable.

Social Skills

Understanding all of the above elements, recognizing when we feel certain ways, controlling those emotions in negative situations, motivating ourselves and others to be in a positive mind set and understanding the emotions of those around us, will improve our social skills. Another way of improving our social skills is being able to read the situation, social cues and body language. But keep in mind, body language and cues could mean different things in different cultures. Take eye contact for exam. In one culture, strong eye contact shows confidence and respect while in another culture, it is seen as trying to intimidate.
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How To Read One Book A Week

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Bibliophiles have no problem reading books they love because they find solace in it. Other people, on the other hand, struggle to retain their attention no matter how interesting the book is. Just like losing weight, training for the Olympics or deciding to follow a healthier lifestyle, learning to read a book a week takes discipline and determination. But that's not all. If you want to learn how to read a book a week, you're on the right page because we have tips on how you can achieve this feat.

Read Where You Relax

One way to make a habit of reading is to keep a book where you relax. Placing a book in a relaxing area removes any friction. You "don’t have to" read it just because it's there. Once you start reading in a relaxing area, your brain will begin to associate the reading with the area and the action will begin to become automatic. Over time, your brain will begin to see reading as relaxing and you will find yourself reading whenever you want to relax.

Break It Down

People who love to read cannot get enough of the book especially if it's a good one. Non-lovers on the other hand will find themselves sweating when faced with a really thick book. You can stop the sweating by committing to read 10% of the book every day. So if it's a 1000 page book, commit to reading 140 pages or so and you'll be done in a week.Another way to break it down is to commit to time. If you want to read a book a week, set aside a specific amount of time and read uninterrupted during this time frame. You can set aside 45-60 minutes per day to read a section of a book before going to bed. If you can spend 40 minutes per day reading your newsfeed, you can do this by reading a book.

Read What You Want To Read

There are readers who want to read biographies, others non-fiction while others love their romance novels. It doesn’t matter what you read as long as you read what you want to. Don’t be pressured by other people. Reading should be an enjoyable experience and not all people experience a book the same way. For example, there are people who do not find non-fiction books interesting. There are also people who love to read adventure books because it allows them to go on an adventure vicariously. By reading what you want to read, you are creating your own enjoyable experience and learning things that you find interesting.

Explore

Yes, thrillers are exciting but they can be boring if you read one after the other. Don’t be afraid to explore other genre like the classics, horror, biographies, non-fiction, documentaries and others. Find out what's on the New York Time's Best Seller's list and see what's the top book for fiction, non-fiction, e-books and challenge yourself to read these books. Exploring will help you identify the different kinds of genres you like and help you find topics that you find interesting.

Keep Distractions At Bay

One of the reasons why people find it hard to read is because they are distracted. Once their phones ping to herald an email or social media notification, they instantly stop what they're doing to check their phones. TV shows, responsibilities and children are also good distracters. However, if you really want to read a book a week, find a setting that does not have distractions to let you read uninterrupted. By choosing a distraction-free setting you will be able to stick to your goal of reading a book a week. For example, you designate one hour before bedtime for reading. Make sure that your kids are already asleep and chores are already done before starting on your reading.Reading a book a week enables you to read 52 books a year! Isn’t this amazing? Books are not only relaxing, they are also empowering. You can learn new ideas, cultures, ways of thinking and explore faraway places by reading a book. All it takes is commitment and you can explore the world of books without having to leave your home.
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